Non-Violent Resistance – Helping parents and families to improve their challenging relationships.

One of the most distressing situations a family can be in is one where the relationship between a young person and the adults that care for them has broken down. Violence, risk taking and anti-social behaviour in the family can be deeply upsetting. Parents and carers can feel powerless and confused wondering when the relationship broke down and how they can repair it. Feeling like you’ve lost control can really put a strain on your confidence and family life.

Non-violent resistance (NVR) addresses violent, destructive and harmful behaviours in children and adolescents by supporting families build up more positive relationships through methods and ideas of non-violent direct action and resistance. Carefully co-ordinated steps aim to build confidence through small, but important, acts of love, develop support networks with friends and family and help families to feel more empowered.


Key concepts of non-violent resistance in parenting:

  • De-escalating conflicts increasing parental presence
  • Taking a firm stand against any acts of violence done by yourself and your child or adolescent
  • Announcing this commitment to your child or adolescent
  • Arranging sit-ins
  • Breaking the cycle of shame and silence
  • Recruiting and utilising supporters
  • Creating reconciliation gestures that are not linked to the young person’s behaviour but increase positive interactions between parents and young people.



The main principles of NVR are:

1. Taking a firm stand against violence, risk-taking and anti-social behaviours.

2. Holding back from physical or verbal violence.

3. Increasing your positive presence in your child’s life.

Referrals are accepted through private, adoption and Council services (including Together for Families). Get in contact for more information.

More information can be found here (including research supporting the use of this method)